The act of criticizing is an expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes. It is also finding fault in something or someone. Virtually everyone does this knowingly or unknowingly. We criticize because we feel the right thing is not being done. Some find faults as a result of jealousy and hatred; they can’t help but see something wrong in others. It was said that “every man has a certain degree of jealousy.”
However, only a few people can withstand this act and others can be stopped from moving forward. No one likes criticism, only few can ignore and go ahead. It causes depression, devastation, demoralization, and many glorious destinies have been lost. Dale Carnegie said “Abilities wither under criticism but blossom under encouragement.’’
Criticizing does not correct in most cases, it arouses resentment and rigidity. criticism limits you and those you criticize. When you begin to see faults in others; of course, you are not going to see any in yourself. In this case, pride sets in and the proud do not like correction.
Criticism is an act we can all control by simply following the golden rule which says: “do unto others what you want others to do unto you.” If a person has done wrong and you feel you should say something, first ask yourself the question of what you would have done if you were in his shoes. You might just have done the same thing, after all, no one is perfect. At times, we may sincerely want to correct and this is good. We do not have to criticize. Appreciate what you like about the person and point out what you want to correct with love. Let the individual feel you are helping and not jesting.
CONCLUSION: Everyone wants a feeling of importance, give them by seeing the good in them and appreciating it.
DECISION: I will Speak ill of no man, and speak all good I know of everybody.
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